There is NO right way to be WOMAN

by Malia Arrayah Nahinu



I’ve already tasted what this world thinks of me

I’ve already known I wasn’t as loved like the majority

I’ve already seen how people felt about my woman life

My Queer, Indigenous, Native Indian, Native Hawaiian, Latin, Mixed Girl Life


In sports

I’ve won championships with less than a hundred fans in the audience

Whilst watching thousands pour in to watch the men’s team lose

In walking down the street

I’ve been screamed at by men

Taunted

And I answer them all because I’m afraid I’ll be followed

Because I’ve been followed

I’ve been harassed

Threatened and yet because my story says I’m tall powerful and intimidating

I am safe

NO

I am still, WOMAN

Seen as weak

Seen as a temptation of objectification to men who are looking for a thrill

A chase

A conquest

But never a woman with a spirit, a soul, a life that can be valued

And when I speak on truth, I am CRAZY

Instead of perceptive

I am INSANE because I want to be respected by mankind, my words drip down the drain of oblivion because I am WOMAN

And I’ve fought these feelings of inadequacy my ENTIRE life because mankind taught me that my presence is to be PRETTY TO SMILE AND TO BE PLEASING OR ELSE I WILL SCARE MEN AWAY FROM ME… I will be too intimidating for JOBS that want me to be SMALLER,

IVE FACED EATING DISORDERS BECAUSE OF THE DISGUSTING MESSAGES written all over our patriarchy “YOU ARE A WOMAN AND YOU HAVE TO LOOK LIKE THIS TO BE ACCEPTED”….

I’ve had to WORK SO HARD TO ACCEPT MYSELF,

And I’ve yet to hear a man tell me he’s experienced the same, felt the same,

They seem to walk around oblivious to these same rules that women live

With…..

So,


I’ve ALREADY KNOWN

My worth to the majority

Stuck in a "tall leaders" body

With a soft voice

And a feminine body

So, it doesn’t matter

That I’m tall because those rules only apply to men,

I do not have that privilege

but I sure have things to say…


I’ve been degraded to “soft spoken” even though I’ve been screaming

the same phrases for years and years

THERE IS NO RIGHT

WAY TO BE A WOMAN

No perfect body or shape

No makeup - she’s trying to be a man

Makeup - she’s a clown and trying too hard

She works out? Muscles are ugly on her

Doesn’t work out? She’s lazy and ugly for not taking care of her body

Too SKINNY TOO FAT TOO TALL TOO SMALL TOO THIS OR THAT